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Lindsey's avatar

DBT saves lives! I was told it was the ‘gold standard’ when my 12 year old daughter went through a mental health crisis that included very scary self-harming. The program was intense- 4 hours a week, group therapy + individual sessions for the adolescent and caregiver for 6 months. At the last session, everyone agreed ALL adolescents would benefit from the mindfulness/validation/life skills lessons we learned. Can’t say enough good things. I saved my folder I still reference it for so many areas of my life. Great post!

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Sam Wilson's avatar

This is a bloody ripper, Clare! Love this stuff!

I agree with what you say about labels. I have ADHD. Getting diagnosed was amazing not because I could wear the label, but because I could then research and identify strategies to help me cope with some of the adverse affects of the condition.

I like to think that we are all on the same spectrum in a sense. We are all damaged, we are all traumatised. It's simply not possible to navigate life without experiencing those things. But because we are all in different situations at different times with different tools or coping mechanisms, we react differently to each other based on those (and other) contributing factors.

I really wish stuff like this was taught in schools so more people understood both their own and others behaviors. I have been guilty in the past of writing someone off because they displayed a certain behavior or reaction to a stress because I didn't understand at the time that basically all behaviors, good or bad, are a reaction to something else. These days when I observe something in someone else or even myself that I find peculiar, my first instinct is to ask why. What has happened to that person that makes them react this way? What does it actually mean? What are they scared of? Do they even understand themselves that what they are doing is actually a sign of fear or a need to protect themselves, etc.

I think a huge part of any solution to these types of things is education. Teaching people so that they understand when someone does something untoward, inappropriate or even just a little different to the "normal", there is almost always a far deeper and more understandable reason why. A reason that if you knew, you'd stop and think, "yep, that type or behaviour/reaction actually makes perfect sense now."

I think through education/knowledge we could learn to be more empathetic, compassionate, considerate and understanding, the exact things that people experiencing these problems crave so badly.

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